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Aunty Jo

They say that a problem shared is a problem halved, so why not enlist the help of our Jo.

 

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Dear Aunty Jo

My boyfriend comes home from work, takes his clothes off and leaves them on the floor...he expects me to pick them up and put them away for him or put them in the wash, he complains if the house is messy or the washing isnt done but he never lifts a finger to help! he works hard and is paid very very well plus he works long hours 5 -6 days a week but is it really that hard to clean up after yourself? he thinks it is my place to clean up....his to make the money

rachel

This is what Auntie Jo said - :

Rachel - what a slob, your husband is, why does he feel its your duty to pick up his dirty stuff - i think if he earns good money you should get yourself a cleaner so you can sit back and relax when he comes home from work. You are not his slave.

Fresher and the Ninza - thought that Rachel was lazy and whats wrong with her being a slave as hes been working hard all day.

Here's what everyone else thought -:

If u're chap is workin 10-12 hrs a day 5-6 hrs a day providin u everything & u don't have 2 go 2 work. What u complainin bout?

Loads of womex would give their high teeth 4 u're life. Put up or get out nf there!

My man is exactly the same, he chucks his clothes on the floor next to wash basket, so now i fold them up and put them bck in draw dirty. I find socks stuffed in the seatee aswel. Just dont wash them. Marie kingswinford. By the way i work all day to

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 Hi Aunty Jo

I can’t believe what’s just happened to me, I’ve had to get in touch as I’m in a quandary and don’t know what to do

The husband of one of my friends has just told me that he’s fancied me for ages and can’t stop thinking about me, he says he’s felt like this for ages but hasn’t had the courage to say anything, I was deeply shocked jo! Then he went on to say I know nothing can happen because you’re happily married, it was almost like he was asking me! I said too bloody right I am mate and I can’t believe you’ve put me in this position when I’m such good friends with your wife!

I couldn’t stand to hear anymore and slapped him before storming off, as I was walking away I could feel his eyes burning into my back, I felt so uncomfortable

I spoke to another friend of mine and she was so shocked she said I should tell my husband about it, but I’m not sure if I should just ignore it and try to forget he said it, it’s a difficult situation as we all go out as couples now and again. The guy is a complete idiot anyway who loves himself, I tolerate him for my friends sake but now he’s said this to me, I don’t know what to do, my head is spinning

Help me find a way through this Jo

 

We changed this ladys name to Gwenth......

Dear Gwenth

I think you should tell your husband (its always good to make husbands a little bit jelou jealous) as he has a right to know what his mate is up too. Fresher and the Ninza recon you should tell your friend too. But that might make her not like you very much. let us know what you decide to do.

Aunty Jo

Here's what everyone else thought: 

BEACON i would let it lie and not say nowt as it just might back fire on her and she might lose a good friend but tell the guy quietly hes a complete aas hole and that you will tell his wife if he doesnt back off lv carolyn

BEACON - the fact that she is muddled and doesn't know what to do means she is secretly flattered and curious ! Steve good on her just forget it u have told him strait . Do not listen 2 joe and not your husband because if he is any think like me well say on more tattoo tony .  

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Aunty Jo

I'm hurt, angry and emotional at the moment and need a fresh pair of ears to give me an opinion on this which is why i've come to you
my husband and i have been together for 4 years, we got off to a fairly rocky start as he had an encounter with an ex of his in the first year of our marriage, he dismissed this as just old friends catching up, but we both know it was more than that, but we talked about it and moved on. Since then and i hate myself for doing it, i've regularly checked his email and internet history and initially ignored the visits to porn sites, as all men go to them, don't they? however recently i've found email exchanges with someone from one of these sites, which are flirty, far too familiar for my liking and even graphic in terms of description of things they'd like to do with each other
I confronted my husband about this and asked how he could do this to me again, he said there was nothing physical going on, that he'd ever met and had no intention of meeting this person, it was just a bit of online fun and that cyber flirting is a harmless way of remaining faithful while having some fun is a harmless way of remaining faithful while having some fun and i'm at fault for infinging on his privacy and checking up on him, he says i'm looking for bad in our relationship rather than the good, he says i should know he loves me and how good we are together
i don't see how we can be so good if he needs to flirt with other women online
whats your thooughts Jo?
alex
Perton
 
Dear Alex ...at least your husband isnt having a full blown affair. You are right all men do look at porn. It's ok for him to look at the internet - its only make belive. You are looking for all the bad in the relationship. Just chill out abit about it, the novelty will soon wear thin.
good luck Alex
 
However everbody else had a different point of view to aunty Jo,
Here's what you thought:
aunty joe .tel her to dump him shes wasted 4years of her life already .cheating low life .thanks big rut
 
You talk such rubbish this happened 2 me n he finaly left me 4 a woman he met on the internet try having some empathy n u will look at things mor
 
Tell him you are gonna have one of these friends to email you. See how he feels especially if you chat to a real hunk. Then tell him to get a life. All in all the thoughts are there. When email isnt enough what next.
 
Jo Hadley in tipton
I dont think any form of flirting whether its face to face or on the internet is acceptable. I wouldn't be happy if my partner was having flirty conversations with another woman. And if he's been unfaithful before you couldn't trust he wont do it again! I'd keep a close eye on him!
its like saying oh its ok her only smoking cannabs, at least he's not injecting heroin so its ok! He shouldnt be doing either surely! Love u guys x
 
 
Sorry Alex i think most people think he is in the wrong not you. Fresher and Producer Neil think you are better off without him.
 
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How do you want Aunty Jo to help you?
Hi Aunty Jo
 
my names liz and i live in brierley hill and listen to you all the time so thought you might be able to help me with this problem i've got with my husband, he's a lorry driver and does long distance work which means he's on the continent a lot and away most weeks leaving me on my own at home. the thing is is hate being alone in the house at night, i'm scared of the dark and paranoid of someone breaking in, so when my mate split up with her fella i asked if she wanted to move in which made sense for both of us as she needed somewhere to live and i was glad of the company and having someone in the house at night. My husband has gone off on a right one and told me he doesn't want a lodger and that when he's back home after long hauls he wants to be able to relax in his own house and not have someone encrouching on his personal space and getting on his nerves. He also said he wants me to himself and how can we do anything with her there, i explained how i felt about being alone but he  says i'm just being daft and i can ring hi anytime so whats am i worrying about
i feel stuck in the middle Jo and not sure what to do
whats your advice?

Aunty Jo said -

Hi Liz, I think you should tell your husband to get a new job - then he can't complain. I have to say, i hate being on my own. i get really really scared too ..i think there's someone under my bed! Anyway, not being funny but your husband does sound so selfish ....

This is what other people were thinking you should do.

Get a dog. Jo Hadley

Why dont she go with him on his trips if they aint got kids etc to worry about. Jo Hadley in tipton.

I'm the same i hate goin into a dark house i'm always so scared. I can understand how she feels. Sarah in Pensnett

Good luck Liz 

 

 

 

 

Dear Aunty Jo
 
i went up Merry hill and bought a top the other week that was in the sale, i got it home and it didn't fit so i took it back last week and its been reduced again and the shop say they can only refund me the new sale price which is less than i paid, its still got all the labels on it and i've got the receipt for it too, but they won't give me the price i paid saying that sale stuff is different to full price when it comes to refunds and returns
 
is this right?
 
Jenny from Stourbridge

This is what Auntie Jo said:

Jenny that sounds out of order to me, Ive checked with my mate Darren who works at a store in the Merry Hill Center, he says most stores do give refunds, but you should ring Trading Standards and the Branch Manager and demand to know why you didn't get a refund.

Go Girl

Here's what everyone else thought:

Richard from Wednesfield advises - take it back after the sale ends, and get a refund at the full price!  there is now 28days.and they have 2 give the money u paid b4 sale .not sale price.dave in w-ton

Sales of goods act states that stores r only obliged2refund on FAULTY items any other refund policy on non faulty items is@the discretion of the store

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 3 months. All was awesome between us until a week ago when I got this kitten from my mother's friend who was giving them away. I've always wanted one and now is as good a time as any.

I find out my boyfriend hates cats with a passion and will not come to my place because of it and even makes me have a shower before I go to his place. I never saw this side of him before. He's now given me an ultimatum - either I get rid of the cat or I lose him. I don't think this is fair....
Rachel
 
Here's what Auntie Jo thought;
 
Well Rachel, the answer is quite simple, get rid of that cat and keep your man. Get on with your love life and stop worrying about a silly cat. Good blokes are hard to find.
good luck.
 
Karen phoned angry with Auntie Jo's advice, she thought it was best to dump the bloke, as he will start on other demands next, saying what she can and can't do.so she thought get rid of him!

iwud get rid of my lover not the cat

i tell you, my cats dogs hamster chinchilla parrot and horses o and fish come first in my house and he can Fluff off, trudi x  stick with the cat it'll be less hassle, and him giving you an ultimatum get rid this will only get worse once he's won that battle from meg

 

 

Dear Aunty Jo

i need your help telling my stroppy 17 year old daughter why its not right that she wants to go off on holiday to magaluf with her mates, she thinks i'm being unreasonable by saying i don't want her to go and that i'm putting a downer on the whole thing and being a right nark. my argument is, i don't want her all that way from home on her own in a place like that, at her age she says she doesn't need my permission and i can't stop her so i've told her i can while she's living under my roof, so she says she'll move out and storms around slamming doors and telling me i'm a miserable bid

can you talk some sense into her? i know she'll listen to you because you're a right one who likes the good time thing but will surely see that a 17 year old girl going to magaluf isnt right

Teresa in brownhills
 

This is what auntie Jo said:

Dear Teresa

i think you should let your daughter go away but not to Magaluf, tell her she can go away but to Devon or Skeggie. I think thats a good comprimise ..that way she will be going away on her own, but if anything happens you are in the same country and she can get hold of you easy. Good luck with your stroppy teenager.

Here's what everyone else thought:

I went to ibiza when i was 17 best time off my life! Let her go she needs to grow up one day . Sam. Age 28 coseley

I agree with fresh because even though the lass is 17, the mom is right, she shouldn't leave the Uk.

hide her pasport tony 

wouldnt let any of my kids even my sons go away untill they are 18, last year my 16 yr son wanted to go but i had to sign a form as he was underage which i refused to do, untill there 18 if they want a holiday they come with us and bring some mates lv carolyn

 good luck Teresa

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Aunty Jo My boyfriend is the greediest git i have ever met. He always eats everything and it pisses me off. Last year i made some brownies and i told him he could have one out of 25 brownies that i made. When I got back home after going shopping, i counted every one of those brownies and there were only 23 which means he ate 2 of them when I specifically said ONE and then today he ate the last doughnut! I mean come on!! That’s twice he’s eaten stuff he shouldn’t have, how can I curb his pigginess Jo? I know you’re a big food monster, how does your husband stop you scoffing everything Gemma from Aldridge

 Here's what auntie Jo said:

Gemma - YOU have got a serious problem, I can't give you any advice, as you've made my blood boil! You need to seek some help Gemma - Good luck .

Here's what everyone else thought:

all i can say is She needs a trip to bushy fields with a straight jacket on and stay there ,lv caz 

She's the one with the problem how pathetic is she! Get a life gemma. Sarah in Pensnett

So Gemma everyone thinks you are nuts - give the guy a break, before he leaves you.

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Dear Auntie Jo,i have been with my girlfriend Hannah, for 2 months and she has a twin sister called Gemma, and they are identical. There is no difference between them at all. I am sure that they swap places and i am seeing both of them at the same time. For example, one weekend i decided to take Hannah out for a romantic weekend away at a posh spa, she was telling me about all her favourite things, like her love for horror films. So this gave me an idea, i decided to surprise her the next weekend by taking her to see 'The Last house on The Left'. When I showed her the tickets that i had booked, she completely flipped. She said how much she disliked horror films and refused to watch it with me. I was mortifyed and reminded her of what she said last weekend at the spa, she ignored me, so i kept asking her, she eventually said that i must have heard wrong, but i know i heard correctly. Now i know Gemma hates horrors because we watched the Ring at home while gemma was th! ere and she refused to come in the room while me and Hannah were watching it. I know this sounds stupid, but little things make me think that they swap places and i am seeing both of them. Just little things change every now and then. Do you think i should confront them both and ask them, or are they just playing silly mind games? from Matt, in Gornal

Here's what auntie Jo said:

Dear Matt, i think you should sit back and enjoy the attention of two women. Most men would love to be in your postition. All women swap and change their mind about things, so gemma saying she likes horror movies and then saying she doesn't is just normal popperdotty.

Hope it all get sorted soon. let me know what you decide to do

Auntie Jox

hi guys get him to give one of the girls a juicy bite then see if its there the next day .Cheers Steve

if that matt chap is having problems with the twins tell him i'll happily take one off his hands!!!!!! From phill 

the guy seein the twin or twins should just dump them.

Its 1 thing havin a laugh when ur younger at school and stuff but to play with someones feelings is wrong does he wanna date a real woman or a couple of immature pathetic school girls

ask them out right mate and if they are playin the game dump em both .thats just disgurting and there twisted In the head and not taken u serious  

We had a phone call from Lemmy, she made a good point, if the twins were messing him around then they can't like him very much. She thought he should dump them too.

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Hi Auntie Jo  
heres my "issue", my boyfriend and me are taking part in the great north run later this year and i've been training hard for it as it's my firstever attempt at anything like this, but i've been to the gym and running in the evenings too so am in fairly good shape, the thing is my boyfriend is based in sheffield at the moment so we aren't seeing as much of each other as i'd like, he did the run last year and has been training with someone he works with who also ran last year, who just happens to be a woman, then to top it all i thought we'd be running together but then he tells me that he can start further up the field because he posted a good time last year, so he and his little "running buddy" are going to be running ahead of me! when i asked why he couldn't just drop back and start and run with me, he said he wanted to try and improve on last years time and told me i was looking at it from a bit of a selfish vewpoint! i don't think its selfish is it? to want to run alongside my boyfriend in an event we both agreed to do together and to rub salt into the wounds he's leaving me behind while he runs with another woman!!
 
i'm so annoyed i'm thinking of dropping out of the whole thing, my mates say i should be dropping him and running my socks off to show him, but i don't know what to do
 
becky

Here's what auntie Jo said:

Thanks for you letter Becky, I feel you're being slightly selfish ..you should let him try and do his best, its not his fault you are not as good as him. Hold your head up high and get those running shoes on. If when you are at the finnish line, there's a man near you grab his hand and runover it together and show your man that you are not bothered ( even thou you are)! Good luck in the race.........

The Ninza and Fresher thought that was bad advice from auntie jo - and the guy should run with her,

Fresh and Jo had a call from Carl, who said she should dump him if he doesn't run with her.

This is a text we had in -  she should train extra hard and run that Bitch into the ground

 Good luck Becky

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We recieved an anonymous letter to Auntie Jo:

Dear auntyjo

i moved in with my sister 3 months ago after being made redundant, i couldnt afford my rent and bills so she suggested i came to live with her and its been really great to be honest, we've spent some real quality timw with each other, which we havent done for ages. the thing is, she's got 2 kids from her last marriage and is seeing me as a live in babysitter recently which is starting to annoy me, i've got no problem loking after my nephews but when its taken for granted and becoming more and more regular it feels like i'm being put on. i do feel guilty that because i've only managed to find part time work that i dont contribute as much cash as i'd like but that shouldnt mean i become a free childminder while my sis is out on the lash, i dont want to rock the boat as generally everything is ok and we have had some great times do u think i'm being over sensitive or should i speak up to my sis?

This is what Auntie Jo had to say;

I think you should think yourself lucky, your sister has asked you to do some babysitting in return for living on the cheap at her house, i can't understand what you are moaning about. When you've sorted yourself out and moved on, your sister will be back to her boring life, so think of it this way - you are giving her a bit of a break as she struggling to bring two kids up alone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

We had an email in from Jackie to auntie Jo:

Dear aunty jo

listen to this and tel me i aint bein unreasonable will you. My husband has recently been offered the chance of a job in new zealand which got me dead excited, as it looks amazing over there and it would be a new and amazing life for all of us, cos we've got 3 kids. but little did i know that he's already turned the job DOWN jo, can you believe it? he din't even discuss it with me, he just came out with it one day that he'd been offered the chance and turned it straight down! i went ballistic jo, as you would, when i said to him what kind of idiot would turn down the chance to live in a fantastic place like that, all he said was he wanted to be near his other kids, cos he's got 2 from his first marriage see. he said he couldnt be on the other side of the world all that distance away and not see them very often, i told him that his priority should be this family and whats best for us, not his cast offs, i'm so annoyed jo and to top it all he's telling me i'm being selfish and unreasonable! me selfish? how the hell does he come to that conclusion?! i'm not the one robbing the family of a great opportunity am i?!
i'm insensed jo, whats your thoughts on this?

jackie
Darlaston

This is what auntie Jo said:

Jackie i would feel the same... how about you suggest to your hubby that the kids come out to see you in the six weeks school holidays, you can't let an opportunity like that get away. I think you are right to be slightly cross. Good luck lots of love Auntie Jo xx

However Fresher and the Ninz had a different point of view and thought Jackie was out of order. Also Sarah and Rich called ....Rich was mad over auntie Jo's advice, Rich has got children from a previous marriage and said if Jackie was his wife he would get her a one way ticket to New Zealand!

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Dear Auntie Jo

I have been in a relationship now for 5 years and my partner does not want to marry but i desperately do. Shall i leave him to find someone that feels the same way or stick with the man i love sooooo much knowing i will never be his wife?????

Tina xx

This is what Auntie Jo said:

Dear Tina ...do not leave your partner just cause he doesn't want to get married. Its only a peace of paper and it will cost you a fortune. You love him, so why leave him. You could just keep going on and on, till finally he says yes! I would just carry on the way you are popperdotty and have some fun, forget that whole marriage thing. If you try and find someone else, he might turn out to be a bad boy.

good luck Tina xxx

 

It all kicked off in the studio, Ninza was very angry and thought Tina should leave her partner as it would eat away at her. Then Louise called and said she needs to decide if its her partner she wants or marriage. Louise said only she can decide, but if Tina is happy then why ruin everything..

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